Rediscover The Essence Of Happiness

Have you ever wondered - what is the real essence of happiness, what is and what is not real happiness? Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that he has enough happiness provided. Happiness, joy and love hold different meanings for each individual. A person may find happiness in shopping and another may find the same kind of pleasure in social work. But there are some aspects which have the capacity to at least put on a smile on every individual's face. Simple gestures like maybe a hug or a morning greeting. Going to each mate of yours at the work place or to each loved one at home every morning and greeting them with a huge smile on your face will bring you happiness as well as to the other person.

So, real happiness is not an external stimulation by watching an action movie or eating out or buying a new dress; it is not the result of acquiring something – whether it be a new car or a position, or of receiving some good news. True happiness is not relief from suffering – whether from an illness or a difficult situation, nor is it the achievement of a goal – whether personal or professional. All these are externally dependent, where happiness is confused with stimulation, excitement, achievement, acquisition or relief. Happiness is not all of these. You commonly say "Well, what I like best," … just then stop and think. Because although each of the above episodes bring us happiness, there is a moment just before you begin to enjoy the episode which is better than when you are enjoying the episode, but you don’t know what its called or what it feels like to enjoy that. Each one of us can experience that joy, we just need to find it. Remember that happiness is not a future promise. It can only be experienced now, in each and every mundane action of the day.


Loving your life is about trusting your instinct, taking the odd chance in difficult situations, loving and experiencing joy, enjoying memories of good actions and episodes of life and learning through life time experiences. The birds chirping on the tree, a child nibbling on her mother or merry children spilling out of their homes, all have the capability to make a person feel happy. We just neglect most of these. Nowadays, we try and look for joy in bonuses, promotions or any monetary gain. But can money really buy happiness? Sometimes you see poor people laughing carelessly while they play with their children and experiencing happiness. On the other hand, children from well off families are surrounded with technology today. Technology has created such an influence in an individual’s life that people have almost abandoned their family time. The time of the day that bought so much laughing and giggling in the house is now substituted with members glued to television or mobile phones. Festivals that were the major joyful events have now lost their essence. They are merely days of more worry and tensions because of the new trends of exchanging expensive gifts or celebrating them lavishly.

So what is real happiness - perhaps a better way to describe happiness in its true essence is contentment. This comes from a complete awareness and acceptance of the self as we are now at an internal level, and an acceptance of 'what is' at an external level. Sounds difficult? The highest happiness is bliss which can be experienced only when the self is totally free of all attachment and dependency. Sounds even more difficult? But this is a real understanding and definition of happiness, which is not difficult to accept and make a part of our life, once there is a deep understanding, absorption and appreciation of the divine wisdom of the self and others as well as the laws of action and time involving both of them i.e. wisdom which is accurate and complete in all aspects. Real happiness is a direct result of this divine wisdom.

 When you feel stuck in a hard time, jump-start a pro-change attitude by letting go or shedding off your attachment to possessions and people (external attachments) and habits (internal attachments) that no longer work for you. When you get rid of your attachment to physical things and people and emotional habits that weigh you down, and start to feel lighter — you’ll witness how by letting go, you’re making room for new things, new values to enter your life. As a result, your subconscious will be relieved by letting go of emotional burdens or bondages.

To achieve the above purpose, try the short meditation below. Think as well as visualize alongside the following thoughts:

I become aware of myself as a tiny sparkling star of light, an energy, situated just above the eyebrows – a soul... In soul consciousness, I experience the beauty of the many qualities like peace, love and joy; of the spiritual being that I am... Now, with the medium of visualization, I, the soul, travel beyond the world of 5 elements to the soul world, a non-physical dimension of the subtle light of golden red hue (shade)… Over there, I visualize, in front of me – a sparkling Sun of golden light - God, the Father and Mother of me, the Supreme Soul, the ocean of peace, love and joy, which is His eternal nature... He radiates the immense spiritual energy of peace, love and joy... I turn my mind and intellect to His light... I feel the warmth of His presence and the light of His love for me gently healing the wounds of the past that are buried deep inside me, the soul... wounds left by ego, fear, sorrow, jealousy, hatred, anger that have reduced my happiness all this while… I feel a deep feeling of emotional freedom inside me, I feel light and my happiness is restored…

Fortunately, being happy is a cakewalk but it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you better stop worrying about it and see what treasures (whether your internal ones or the external ones i.e. from the Supreme and others) you can tap into.

Detached Observation – A Spiritual Skill

Detachment is the basis of our ability to be positive and affectionate with others while we interact with them. This is what is known as commitment and the relationship of detachment and it begins with what is known as a spiritual skill: the skill of being a detached observer.

On needs to be a detached observer in two dimensions: one within and one outside:
The inner art of detached observation is the ability of separating ourselves from our own thoughts, emotions, attitudes and behavior. On the external level, the art of detached observation is the art of being witness to the scenes that take place around us. While we detach ourselves and observe how the game of life develops, without being active participants, we are able to see the "big picture" with greater clarity. That makes it easier to see clearly what role we have to play and where our contribution lies. We are creators, and our thoughts, emotions and attitudes are our own work.

In reality, detached observation is the first step towards personal strengthening. If we don't manage to detach ourselves from our thoughts and emotions, they will turn into our owners and will consume our energy.

For the practice of meditation it is essential that you act as a witness of everything you think and feel, and, once some time has passed, you will find that the practice simultaneously frees you and offers power.


The one who does not wait for others to change to bring a change in the self is the one who really brings benefit to others.

Checking: Think of all the things you would like to change but are not able to. Now ask yourself why you are not able to bring about a change - is it because you are waiting for others to change before you change yourself.

Practice: Take any one thing that you would like to change and tell yourself, " I will change and seeing me the others will change too. I am the leader who inspires others to change, I will not wait for others."

Spiritual Vision

A simple definition of spiritual vision is that I see the best in others. A parameter of proving to myself that I have a spiritual vision and I am seeing the best in others is that I naturally thank and praise rather than criticize those with whom I interact at home or at the workplace on a daily basis – even though I may see obvious negative characteristics in them and experience negative behavior from them. Keep a daily chart of the three points, for three people close to you, below for one week. Every night, fill this chart up for the day that’s just gone by.

1. Name of person and relationship
2. How did I thank or praise him/her?
3. What was this person's response?

Remember that although you may be constantly positive with others, constantly seeing their original spiritual qualities, it may take time for your positive energy to transform them and for them to start transmitting positive energy back to you and start behaving positively with you. At the end of the week, check what benefits did you and others experience from this exercise.

Become a true well-wisher who transforms others' attitude with your good wishes.

Checking: In your interactions throughout the day, check if your feelings towards someone are negative. Also check if you are expecting someone to change his or her attitude or behaviour.

Practice: Tell yourself each day, "Just as a powerful bulb when switched on transforms darkness into light in a second, there's so much power in my good wishes that they can transform others' negative attitude into positive in one second." 

Breaking The Cycle Of Negative Energy Exchanges

We all know that every individual is inherently good. A little shade of the incorrect or improper personality exists inside each one, however light the shade is. We also know that this shade was not there originally in the soul but is an acquired one. And also the person with the shade does become aware of it in times of solitude and also is making an effort to remove it so that no discomfort or sorrow is caused to anyone because of it. Along with the negative shades every person possesses many positive personality traits which are their strengths. Now when we are having an exchange of negative energies with such a person, what does a spiritually sensible person do, look at those light shades of negativity which are coming into action at that time or focus on so many positive colours of the personality of the other, colours that we have seen or heard about from others many times in the past. Also, an accompanied realization that even I have my share of negative shades which I am working on erasing, makes this vision easy to practice.

Practiced consistently, this kind of positive vision accompanied by a deep hearted appreciation of the positive personality colours of the other person is mercy in action, which is a shade of pure soul-to-soul love. Such appreciation makes it easier for others to reflect on and see what they need to do to change. But the first impact of this appreciation is on me, in keeping me free of negative and waste internally. So appreciating the other’s strengths in my mind and emerging them in my consciousness at such a time is very important as this not only keeps my perception, which is susceptible to being influenced by the negative at that time, clean, but also reaches the other person on a vibrational level and he/she is inspired and empowered to bring those strengths into action, as a result playing his/her part to end the negative energy exchange. This is spirituality at its most magical. I'll not only have removed a source of pain, which is the negative shade of the other’s personality in this case, which is coming into action; I'll have grown spiritually as well.


Become the ones who make efforts continuously and experience constant self-progress.

Checking: Check if there is any doubt within you whether you'll succeed or not. If there is any such doubt it means that your effort is not continuous. Where there is constant effort you experience constant progress.

Practice: Each day remind yourself of at least one thing that you have achieved for the day. When you make a habit in this way, you will be able to notice and experience the fruit of the effort that you put in.

Those 3 Magical Words " I LOVE YOU !!! "

Those 3Magical Words as I see it..

 (Love is a feeling that can b 4ur country, ur parents, friends not only about life partners n I'm not talking about Romantic flings.. Until u love urself,u cant love any1 else..)
When I say "I Love U" den it means I love U as U r without any terms n conditions whatsoever..
Though I dont prefer speaking it up but I'd rather prefer showing it or bringing it into action ie. doing whatever I can do 4them selflessly without any expectations whatsoever..
Its said that "Love me when I deserve it d least coz its then when I need it d most.."
If I love U only when U work as per my set of rights n wrongs then that's not love,that's business..
When some1close2us makes a mistake then they r already in guilt..Dey need r love n support2come out of it..but majority of us tell them "I didn't expect this 4m U..U hv changed..I dont want2b wid U.."
Now c how damaging dis is 4d soul..Its d time when v ought2empower dem by r love n support but instead v ourselves go in2hurt n add pain to their pain..so v need2ask ourselves that "Are v really playing our part well n r v really there4ppl whom v claim2love..? "

I feel that if I really love U then I love U with all ur imperfections n flaws coz all of us hv r share of strengths n weaknesses..regardless of d circumstances..notwithstanding d conditions..dts true love I guess..Its all about sending pure positive vibes n unconditional acceptance..dts how I interpret it..
It has nothing 2do with d statistics,color,height,weight,bank balance,Jaguar..
Its just a silent promise that "I will b there 4U no matter what happens..That would be irrevocable n unconditional love.."

I had d illusion that I loved a lot of ppl - family,best friends, friends etc. but I heard something n it got me thinking.."If U dont love urself then U cant love any1 else" Yes.. coz how can U give something that U dont have..?
As per d old beliefs, ppl mostly felt that taking care of urself n loving urself would sound selfish but this line made me contemplate..
I thought that I need2hv a reality check that if presently I dont even accept myself 4who I am n hvnt learnt d art of loving myself then how can I claim that I love others..?
Hum apne aap se din bhar baat karte hai n dusro se toh kuch time k liye hi interact karte h..Anything that v repeatedly do becomes our habit(our sanskaars)..The energy that v create 4ourselves would become our aura n it'l b radiated2others..
Apne ko Disrespect karte h toh dusre k liye Respect possible nahi h..
Apne ko Criticize karte h toh Dusro ko Appreciate karna Possible nahi h..
V can use v.gud words but r energy wud b critical coz it has become r aura n our Relationships r based on d energy that v send2others..Jo Perfume laga rhe ho aap usi ki smell radiate kar sakte ho..kisi aur perfume ki nahi..
Even in a flight u r told2put ur own Oxygen Mask 1st of all coz if U r not alive urself then how can U save others..?
Jo cheez humare pass hai hi nahi wo dusro ko kaise denge..? so if I dont create loveful thoughts4myself then how can I love any1else?
So, Gently say2urself "I love U before U say it to anyone else..!!! "

Ganesh Ji Maatha broad - symbol/prateek of wisdom
Small eyes-symbol of focus,concentration,far-sightedness,think about future long term consequences of ur present actions coz v'l just carry only r karmic a/c's n sanskaars with us wen v die..
Kaan Bade Muh Chhota- Listen more dan u speak..Speak softly,slowly n less..Only if u'l listen den cn u understand wat d other prsn wants2tell u. Dont frame ur reply while d other prsn is spkg..just listen..
Soop jaise kaan- Soop ki tarah chhaan le..filter d info dt u tk in..Hear only wats imp n gud..kisi ki buraiyo ka chintan na kare coz wo aapke chit ka hissa ban jayega..dnt tk in criticism n negativity.
Ek dant - Finish Duality..Bhed bhaav khatam karo..Chhota bada,ooch neech,ameer gareeb,hindu muslim,mota patla,kaala gora-stop..naam n positions me mat faso,remove d labels..b soul-conscious n not body conscious..V r all beautiful,powerful,pure souls..Unity..Vasudhaiv Kutumbkam..
Soodhh (trunk) - Soodhh sui b utha sakti h n Vriksha b ukhaad sakti hai..Phool b utha sakti h & kisi ko gira b sakti h..ie. u hv2decide where to be soft n where2b strong..Some ppl think dt being spiritual mks a prsn weak..dunia me rahi nhi payega bechara..aisa nhi h..A prsn who is truly spiritual will b soft no doubt but he'l also hv d same deal of strength n most imp he has d wisdom of deciding where2b soft n where2b strong.
Axe-Past Karmic A/c ko kaate..face gyaan ki buddhi se..Bada Pet- Acceptance-accept all..
1hath me rassi-jis aatma ko wisdom n divine qualities pe chalna h dey need2hv a disciplined life-maryada me baandhna..
Trishool-past me kia hua karm mere samne aaya-uska result,present karma, future conseqences,jo teer wapas aaya h wo maine hi kabhi bheja tha ab aaya..dnt say y me..ye maine past me kia..hw2respond nw ?
Mera past,present n future..hw2respond in present..
Modak-mehnat-constant attention n constant effort toh safalta aap k hath me..safalra k sath aayi mahima naam maan shaan ko na sweekaro..parmatma ne humse karaya ye..no pride,humility..gyaan ka ahankar nhi.. Lotus(Kamal Pushp)- kamal keechad se ugta h n pyara b rehta h..uska patta pani absorb nhi karta..purity..jeevan ko pure n powrful..bhagna nhi jaagna.. Hath saamne ki taraf-accept every1as dey r,duae so sabko..vardaan do jaisi b ho..blessings.best wishes.. 1paav upar 1neeche-dunia me rehna n usse upar b.. ganesh ji chuhe pe baithe : constant nibble-sense organs ka prateek,jo kamzor atma apni karmindriyo pe control nhi kar pati..control..chuha area numb kar deta h..chuhe kaalo kutarne wala..wisdom dharan toh us chuhe pe sense organs pe raaj karega..
riddhi n siddhi- perfection,prosperity n success if u implement all..
ganesh ji maat pita ka chakkar laga le puri dunia ka chakkar lag gya - God se connection..mera ho k toh dekho sabko tumhara na bana du toh kehna..
Vighna Vinashak-ye sab kar k apne jeevan k vikaro vighno ka vinaash kar degi..success will always b urs..safalta nischit.. Let wisdom b der in my every thought,word n action..