So U say u r my friend..Is that So...Really ? Please stop kidding me..

Disclaimer- I really wanted to write on this & I don't really care what any1else thinks about me but I mean each & every word I write here..Straight out of my heart..☺
I often confuse the term acquaintances with friends..
Acquaintances jaan pehchaan wale hue..Friends is the term which has lost its meaning for me over a period of time..
Hote kaun hai friends ye aaj tak samajh nahi aaya..
FB, WhatsApp, hike wale kya friends hote hai..?
The smart phone is really smart when it says Contact list..Contacts hote hai aajkal generally..
V have at least 500-600ppl on r FB friendlist these days..
I bet half of them would not be happy to see u do well in life..
It's not about liking status updates & DP's.
I really feel averse to all sorts of friendships now in this mechanical world of social media (FB,whatsapp,hike or whatever) where if v need to talk to someone then v add them & if v r over with it then v block them.
It appears like buying something on Amazon - add to Cart or remove it..
It appears like v r dealing with gadgets that we can switch on & off whenever v feel like..
I don't feel that connect anymore..Smilies r there but smiles r missing..
Wo feel nahi aati jo u used to get when you have an heart to heart conversation with ur long lost buddy..

- ©Devika Tandon(DT)

"Dunia k saamne bhi hum apna kahe jisey..
Koi aisa dost ho ki Sudama kahe jisey.." <3
Once upon a time I used to be all crazy about this so-called Friendship Day..till 2014 to be precise..I used to tag 100's of friends jisme se aadhe toh shayad uss post ka reply b nahi karte honge..:D
I used to spend hours in writing poems on friendship but as years rolled by, some ppl who I claimed were my best friends then are nowhere to be found now.
Who r ur friends ? kaam k time call karne wale log, who only flock around u when u r in the limelight when they want something from u....sirf friendship day wish karne wale log..samne achhe & peeche mazaak banane wale log..kabhi-2 milne but roz yaad aane wale log..hote kaun hai dost..?
If people are there with you only in their free time when they possibly have nothing else to do then they are not ur real friends baby..
How many people whom we call our friends would be there for us when we need them without checking their schedule..? Real friends r those who find time for you no matter how busy they are..
Kitne log hai jinhe aap call kar k bol sakte hai - "Bhai..aa k mil le mujhse..chal..chill karte hai..?
Kitne log aapse aa k poochte honge - " Bhai zinda hai tu ? "
True friends r those rare people who stand by you even when u have absolutely nothing. Ur company is all they want. They lift u up when u don't feel like moving out of ur shell. Friends tab bhi rehte hai jab logo k gf/bf chale jate hai toh friendship is above everything but krishna-Sudama wali dosti ab kam nazar aati hai..
Angrezo wale diwas ki sabhi 1din wale dosto ko hardik shubhkaamnaayein..
-Without any disclaimer,
Devika Tandon..

"Chalo hum hi pehel kar de ki humse badguma kyu ho.. Koi rishta zara si zidd k khatir raida kyu ho.." It is something which most of us must have gone through.. Many a times, our friendships fade away with time coz both of us wait for the other person to initiate.. We generally think ki "If they don't call or text me then why should I ? " May be the other person is genuinely facing a hard time then as a good friend we need to be there for them all the more instead of drifting away.. If the other person is ignoring you on purpose then it's a different story altogether but tab bhi royal behavior would be to not create negative vibes coz u will get back what u radiate out..Ego will tell you to copy their behavior but real self-respect would be in talking sweetly Dil se even if the other person is rude coz that's the real challenge. I respect myself for being good irrespective of how others' behave.. & u know what most people just copy ur behavior so "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.." Let's love, respect and admire the innate goodness in every soul.. -Devika Tandon(DT)

Do u wanna find yourself ? If yes, then serve, be kind,show compassion and lose yourself in the service of others.

This is in reference to http://www.youthkiawaaz.com/

Is there Goodness left in this world ? Do you feel that people are becoming more selfish and evil, that there are few good souls left, and that everything is not as it once was ?

We often question the disappearance of humanity when our news feeds are flooded (literally and figuratively) with violence, atrocities, and disaster. It’s no wonder that dejection or desensitization are almost reflex reactions. But every now and then, we see a glimmer of hope, a beacon of faith in the sea of uncertainty and selfishness.

We all work for ourselves, but there are few among us who are not satisfied with living a self-centered life. These people work with grit and determination to bring about a change in our society - in whatever way possible.

I believe that nothing unites people quite like a common tragedy, a fact that has been proven several times over the years, and now most recently, in the deluge of Chennai.

A  number of legendary tales of bravery and heroism emerged from the flooded and battered capital of Tamil Nadu. These aren't just stories of exceptionally proficient relief operations that are being carried out by the armed forces of India, but common citizens from in and around the city who have been instrumental in aiding those, however they can, in deep water. Chennai has been fighting back like a braveheart as the Indian Army, the Indian Air Force, and the NDRF take charge in making the historic port city stand on its feet again.

Good Samaritans from all over the country contributed to the Chennai flood relief in their own small (or big) ways possible. We may share grieve and stand by the people of Chennai who have shown immense strength till now. But there are people who went out of the blue and did something which many would think a thousand times.

Ram Kashyap, resident of Bangalore is one such person. This guy did something that not many would dare to do. He had decided to wade across the troubled waters to help the citizens of Chennai, quite literally.

He shuttled between Bangalore and Chennai with the relief materials to provide respite to the affected persons stranded in Chennai.

On the first trip on December 3, he carried materials like food, containers, paper cups, umbrella and raincoat. In order to collect all the materials he wrote a Facebook post informing people about the plan.

 Thousands responded to his plea for help and proved that humanity still prevailed and people still cared. His post went viral. More than 1200 people contacted him and more than 250 donors volunteered to help people in Chennai by helping him collect all the essentials. Kashyap said that a lot of people donated cooked food, packaged foods, sanitary pads, diapers, medicines and other things. Ram Kashyap and his group had created 14 drop-off points in Bengaluru where people came and dropped their donations off. He and his friends made their bank account details public so that people could contribute for their fuel expenses and other logistics for their drive to Chennai.

 Chennai came back to normal. They managed to cover all the areas in Chennai. For a change we saw Chennai as a very different place.
1. Hindu, Muslim, Christians all were helping each other proving that humanity is the biggest religion.
2. More than people who were affected the volunteers mainly the youth were more in number.
Nobody had time for their family. They all had only one thing in common to say." I am helping here, there will be somebody helping my family too".
3. Girls and boys working the whole night together without girls being insecure. The guys took care that the girls were safe.

4. BANGALORE was like an official partner to help the city. Trucks and trucks of things were sent. There were many who traveled from Bangalore to Chennai to help them. Big Salute to them.
5. Parents who let their kids work no matter what time it was.
6. Before the government could react the youth finished the job itself. 

It is motivating and inspiring to see a city like this. Let what ever come we will be strong. Let's continue this.

Such strong-willed souls inspire us endlessly. The smallest effort can make a huge impact and Ram Kashyap has set an example for this. Kudos to you Ram for reinforcing our belief in goodness. What Ram Kashyap did inspires us that we don't need to have a hefty bank balance to help people in need. We can start anywhere. We just need to be willing to lend a helping hand to a soul in need. People like Ram prove that our world is still a beautiful place to live in.

I just don't understand Y ppl look down upon others in d name of religion.. Islam also teaches love n peace..
I don't think terrorists have any religion..
Every religion teaches us to spread love, kindness, universal brotherhood..
4me all religions r different paths that lead to the same destination..
I don't consider Hinduism superior to other religions coz acceptance is what makes India great..Unity in Integrity.. Everyone is different.. V all have different perspectives.. Let's understand, love n respect r differences.. Y fight in d name of religion? Religions were meant to unite us n not to divide us..
We don't need to prove others inferior so as to prove ourselves superior coz at the end of the day, we won't take r bank balance to the graveyard. V'l just carry our sanskaars n karmic accounts so lets focus on what really matters..

Maut ko yaad rakhe..

I read something which was written on an auto & it got me thinking..The exact line was "Maut ko yaad rakhe.."
I found it beautiful..It made me introspect n raised a series of questions..If  we remember death everyday then our life would be lovely.. Whenever we are about to do something then we can pause for a while & introspect that "If my soul had to leave this body today then will I behave in a similar fashion..If today were the last day of my life then will I get angry on someone..What would we take along with us to the graveyard - Jaguar, Bank balance, those branded clothes..? Kya le jayenge hum sath me ? It would be just our sanskaars & our karmic accounts..
Kyu ladd rahe ho Bhai ? Tum bhi Marne wale ho..Hum bhi Marne wale hai..Aaj se 80-90yrs me humme se kitne log jeevit rahenge ?
Y not focus on the things that really matter..? Remembering death would make our life more meaningful..It will make us focus on our purpose coz its no use living the same day over & over again & calling it a life..
How would u like to be remembered ? What would we like to hear in our funeral speech ? Would we do what we are about to do if today were the last day of our lives ? If the answer is No then we need to change something..
So, lets always remember death & lets do what we would love to receive back..:)

THERE WOULD BE A HOLE IN CREATION IF U DIDN'T EXIST !!!!

You are unique!

Think what a remarkable, unduplicatable, and miraculous thing it is to be you! Of all the people who have come and gone on the earth, since the beginning of time, not ONE of them is like YOU!

No one who has ever lived or is to come has had your combination of abilities, talents, appearance, friends, acquaintances, burdens, sorrows and opportunities.

No one's hair grows exactly the way yours does. No one's finger prints are like yours. No one has the same combination of secret inside jokes and family expressions that you know.

 
The few people who laugh at all the same things you do, don't sneeze the way you do. No one prays about exactly the same concerns as you do. No one is loved by the same combination of people that love you - NO ONE!
No one before, no one to come. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY UNIQUE!

Enjoy that uniqueness. You do not have to pretend in order to seem more like someone else. You weren't meant to be like someone else. You do not have to lie to conceal the parts of you that are not like what you see in anyone else.

You were meant to be different. Nowhere ever in all of history will the same things be going on in anyone's mind, soul and spirit as are going on in yours right now.
If you did not exist, there would be a hole in creation, a gap in history, something missing from the plan for humankind.

Treasure your uniqueness. It is a gift given only to you. Enjoy it and share it!
No one can reach out to others in the same way that you can. No one can speak your words. No one can convey your meanings. No one can comfort with your kind of comfort. No one can bring your kind of understanding to another person.

No one can be cheerful and lighthearted and joyous in your way. No one can smile your smile. No one else can bring the whole unique impact of you to another human being.

Share your uniqueness. Let it be free to flow out among your family and friends and people you meet in the rush and clutter of living wherever you are. That gift of yourself was given to you to enjoy and share. Give yourself away!

See it! Receive it! Let it tickle you! Let it inform you and nudge you and inspire you! YOU ARE UNIQUE!