"Life is a competition.." is a line that all of us must have heard..
Competition- taught to us probably when we were in kindergarten, first or second class..
We were taught "its a competition & u have to win" & we were not talking about sports at that time..We were talking about marks, comparison with others..U have to come first - better than the best & then this came to every sphere of life. It wasn't only at work place.It started happening between friends.It started happening between brothers & sisters - even between a mother & her daughter.
This word has come out everywhere in our vocabulary. One belief system which is not true that "life is a competition" is so critical that it has lead to so much stress in our life. We have fitted this belief system at the sub-conscious & now every thought that will arise whether at work or at home or in the social circle & even in the social service where the intention is "Seva" or "Service".Even then its a competition coz once its fed at the sub-conscious then it doesn't matter in which aspect of ur life u r.
Competition & Jealousy go hand in hand.Jealousy has become so over-powering that any amount of logic, values & principles, ethics- everything has been left aside & ppl are ready to do anything just to get ahead of others..Lets check our lives & see that " How many times are we ready to compromise on anything just because we wanna go ahead of other people- any amount of back-biting, office politics, using unethical means in flourishing our own business or whatever we are doing."
One of the main reasons of stress today is the line that "Life is a competition" so lets explore another belief system (Use it as a belief system, explore, experiment, see the result - like it then accept it)
that "There is no competition at all. We are not competing with absolutely anybody.
Each one is on their own journey & each one's capacity is going to be different. Let each one just focus on their own path & put in more than their best & they will get the result in proportion to their input. As will be the input so will be the output so where is the relative factor coming in ? "
We all must have seen that when a kid came home after exams, parents would ask him "How was ur paper ? " If the child said "It was not good."
Next question would be "How was everyone else's ? & if he replied" auro ka bhi nahi achha hua" then some parents would say "chalo..tab theek hai"..thats where it started..
Lets understand that my performance is not in relative to the others. My result is not dependent on others' result. Its only dependent on my input. Somebody's situations could be favorable - good health, stable financial conditions. Our effort, sincerity, value system would be different. My situational factors, family condition, personal,emotional, physical conditions, efforts are my inputs. It has nothing to do with anybody else around me so where is the competition ?
If 10 people with different parameters put in their input & accordingly they will get the output. Now because of the belief that life is a competition, irrespective of my input, I want my output to be more than the other person without considering the fact that his input factors were different from me - probably more favorable right now so then I started playing around with the input which meant unethical practices- not only on mine but being unethical to the extent of spoiling others' input..
We can see this everywhere. In families & offices we can see how people keep back-biting, criticizing, spreading different things about others ie. they try to manipulate others inputs so as to have higher output than everyone else. While doing all this , there is a very dominant input factor which is automatically being worked upon that I'm not aware of - my state of mind & even deeper than that my karma which is getting created. By doing all these manipulations it's possible that my output turns out to be better than everybody else around & I feel "That's it.That's what I wanted.I am No. 1" & People say "All is fair in love & war" but I need to remember that in terms of relationships & even in the field of karma " As will be the energy which goes out so will be the energy that comes back so will be my destiny that will get created."
The only difference is that we'll get instant results materialistically (promotion, money, so-called status & respect) but after this you'll get so much addicted to success obtained by unfair means that your mind will stop creating2 thoughts, your intellect won't evaluate if its right or wrong & very soon it'll become your sanskaar & you'll be ready to do anything to get ahead of others. This will overpower your mind, intellect & values. Sooner or later you'll get the return of your karmas then you shouldn't question " why did it happen to me ? "
Even in an actual race we are taught to look straight ie. focus on our own path instead of looking at everyone else coz the time v spend on focusing on other people is the time we'll miss out at the end & then we'll lose sight of our own journey.
For eg. Imagine going on a trip with your family in your car & all of u r happily singing & enjoying the journey but if u decide to compete or have a race with another car then if you'll say something to the person who is driving then they will tell you to shut up & won't listen to u coz their entire focus is on competing with the other car. How will d journey become ? You'll miss out on all d fun & happiness.
That's what exactly happens in our journey called life when we start running in the rat race coz even if you win the race, you'll still remain a rat.
So, lets challenge our old belief system."I have to be better than them."
Lets look at this thought.What am I trying to tell myself & what message am I sending to the world outside.
The compass on the journey is our value system, our qualities, principles & strength. Lets focus on our journey of life.We are not competing with anyone.We don't have to be better than anyone else coz each one of us is already pure & complete.We are now only enjoying what we already have. Happiness is not at the destination. I don't have to reach faster than anyone else to experience that happiness. Its already there within me. Its who I am. On this journey, I'll not create any dis-empowering or negative thought about me or anyone else.
The belief system that life is a competition creates fear & insecurity & hence depletes our happiness.
* Life is not a competition. Each one is on their own journey, live according to your choices, capacity, values and principles.
* The output of our actions is in proportion to our inputs. Inputs could be circumstances, health, resources, and value systems. Our output is not dependent on the output of others.
* Past Karma is a very important input factor. Even if all the present input factors of two people are the same, their past karma are different, therefore output will be different and therefore no competition.
* If we compromise on our input factor -- values or interfere with the inputs of others, we are creating deep karma and this will influence our output today and in the future.
{There is nothing called "Healthy Competition" coz anything which is done to put others down cannot be healthy.}
My life is my journey to my destination at my speed,using my capacity & on the basis of my values & principles. Living by the belief system "life is a competition" creates fear, anger, jealousy, hatred & is one of the main reasons why we resort to unethical means. We are not in competition with anyone. Our reference is only our own best & we keep working towards getting better from our best on the journey of improvement & empowerment. Lets co-operate with everyone we are meeting. The positivity & the blessings that we get keeps us contented, happy & successful.
Competition- taught to us probably when we were in kindergarten, first or second class..
We were taught "its a competition & u have to win" & we were not talking about sports at that time..We were talking about marks, comparison with others..U have to come first - better than the best & then this came to every sphere of life. It wasn't only at work place.It started happening between friends.It started happening between brothers & sisters - even between a mother & her daughter.
This word has come out everywhere in our vocabulary. One belief system which is not true that "life is a competition" is so critical that it has lead to so much stress in our life. We have fitted this belief system at the sub-conscious & now every thought that will arise whether at work or at home or in the social circle & even in the social service where the intention is "Seva" or "Service".Even then its a competition coz once its fed at the sub-conscious then it doesn't matter in which aspect of ur life u r.
Competition & Jealousy go hand in hand.Jealousy has become so over-powering that any amount of logic, values & principles, ethics- everything has been left aside & ppl are ready to do anything just to get ahead of others..Lets check our lives & see that " How many times are we ready to compromise on anything just because we wanna go ahead of other people- any amount of back-biting, office politics, using unethical means in flourishing our own business or whatever we are doing."
One of the main reasons of stress today is the line that "Life is a competition" so lets explore another belief system (Use it as a belief system, explore, experiment, see the result - like it then accept it)
that "There is no competition at all. We are not competing with absolutely anybody.
Each one is on their own journey & each one's capacity is going to be different. Let each one just focus on their own path & put in more than their best & they will get the result in proportion to their input. As will be the input so will be the output so where is the relative factor coming in ? "
We all must have seen that when a kid came home after exams, parents would ask him "How was ur paper ? " If the child said "It was not good."
Next question would be "How was everyone else's ? & if he replied" auro ka bhi nahi achha hua" then some parents would say "chalo..tab theek hai"..thats where it started..
Lets understand that my performance is not in relative to the others. My result is not dependent on others' result. Its only dependent on my input. Somebody's situations could be favorable - good health, stable financial conditions. Our effort, sincerity, value system would be different. My situational factors, family condition, personal,emotional, physical conditions, efforts are my inputs. It has nothing to do with anybody else around me so where is the competition ?
If 10 people with different parameters put in their input & accordingly they will get the output. Now because of the belief that life is a competition, irrespective of my input, I want my output to be more than the other person without considering the fact that his input factors were different from me - probably more favorable right now so then I started playing around with the input which meant unethical practices- not only on mine but being unethical to the extent of spoiling others' input..
We can see this everywhere. In families & offices we can see how people keep back-biting, criticizing, spreading different things about others ie. they try to manipulate others inputs so as to have higher output than everyone else. While doing all this , there is a very dominant input factor which is automatically being worked upon that I'm not aware of - my state of mind & even deeper than that my karma which is getting created. By doing all these manipulations it's possible that my output turns out to be better than everybody else around & I feel "That's it.That's what I wanted.I am No. 1" & People say "All is fair in love & war" but I need to remember that in terms of relationships & even in the field of karma " As will be the energy which goes out so will be the energy that comes back so will be my destiny that will get created."
The only difference is that we'll get instant results materialistically (promotion, money, so-called status & respect) but after this you'll get so much addicted to success obtained by unfair means that your mind will stop creating2 thoughts, your intellect won't evaluate if its right or wrong & very soon it'll become your sanskaar & you'll be ready to do anything to get ahead of others. This will overpower your mind, intellect & values. Sooner or later you'll get the return of your karmas then you shouldn't question " why did it happen to me ? "
Even in an actual race we are taught to look straight ie. focus on our own path instead of looking at everyone else coz the time v spend on focusing on other people is the time we'll miss out at the end & then we'll lose sight of our own journey.
For eg. Imagine going on a trip with your family in your car & all of u r happily singing & enjoying the journey but if u decide to compete or have a race with another car then if you'll say something to the person who is driving then they will tell you to shut up & won't listen to u coz their entire focus is on competing with the other car. How will d journey become ? You'll miss out on all d fun & happiness.
So, lets challenge our old belief system."I have to be better than them."
Lets look at this thought.What am I trying to tell myself & what message am I sending to the world outside.
The compass on the journey is our value system, our qualities, principles & strength. Lets focus on our journey of life.We are not competing with anyone.We don't have to be better than anyone else coz each one of us is already pure & complete.We are now only enjoying what we already have. Happiness is not at the destination. I don't have to reach faster than anyone else to experience that happiness. Its already there within me. Its who I am. On this journey, I'll not create any dis-empowering or negative thought about me or anyone else.
The belief system that life is a competition creates fear & insecurity & hence depletes our happiness.
* Life is not a competition. Each one is on their own journey, live according to your choices, capacity, values and principles.
* The output of our actions is in proportion to our inputs. Inputs could be circumstances, health, resources, and value systems. Our output is not dependent on the output of others.
* Past Karma is a very important input factor. Even if all the present input factors of two people are the same, their past karma are different, therefore output will be different and therefore no competition.
* If we compromise on our input factor -- values or interfere with the inputs of others, we are creating deep karma and this will influence our output today and in the future.
{There is nothing called "Healthy Competition" coz anything which is done to put others down cannot be healthy.}
My life is my journey to my destination at my speed,using my capacity & on the basis of my values & principles. Living by the belief system "life is a competition" creates fear, anger, jealousy, hatred & is one of the main reasons why we resort to unethical means. We are not in competition with anyone. Our reference is only our own best & we keep working towards getting better from our best on the journey of improvement & empowerment. Lets co-operate with everyone we are meeting. The positivity & the blessings that we get keeps us contented, happy & successful.
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