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Topic : Yes or No to Pre-Marital Sex
Topic : Yes or No to Pre-Marital Sex
Once
upon a time there lived a girl named Ria.
She irrevocably loved a guy called Jay.He was her best friend. She could
do anything for him. She didn't know how he felt about her. She was
always there for him whenever he needed her. He meant the world to her.
He wanted to make out with her just for fun. For him, sex was like an
exercise or a game for having fun or pleasure. She loved him dearly so
she just wanted to spend as much time with him as possible. She used to
fantasize about embracing & kissing him. For her, getting physical
with him was an expression of the love she had for him..It was about
being intimate with him- so close to him that no one could ever separate
them. She just wanted to spend her entire life with him - taking care of
him and being there for him till eternity.She wanted to marry him.
He was the only guy she could picture herself with. Her mornings started
with thoughts about him and her nights ended thinking about him. She
could trust him blindly.
But Jay had many other female friends with whom he used to go and make
out with.He had no issues with one-night stands and having multiple
partners.He wanted to explore others' sexual needs and for him it was
just about having fun. He termed this as living in the present moment
but he used to run away from making any sort of commitments.
Jay and Ria used to spend time together whenever possible.
Once they went out for a movie.They took the corner seats as the love birds often do.Jay tried to get intimate with her.His hands moved at places it should not but Ria kept quiet as she thought that he loved her and so she told him "I'm all urs." She considered it to be an expression of love so she felt that if they love each other then there is nothing wrong in expressing it. For Ria, Jay was the best person in the entire world. She thought that he also loved her as he was always there for her. She felt that he made a move because he wanted to take their friendship/ relationship to the next level. She couldn't even imagine that Jay would betray or hurt her. She had no idea that Jay used to go out with other girls as he always pretended that she was the only one for him. On the coming Saturday, Ria's parents had to go out of town for some work. Ria told Jay about it. Jay said that he will come at her place when her parents would leave as he wanted to spend some time with her. Finally, the most awaited Saturday night arrived. Jay came at Ria's place. They had a lovely candle-light dinner watching "PS I Love You.." followed by a romantic ball-dance. The young lovers cuddled on the couch. Jay embraced & kissed Ria. In the heat of the moment, they couldn't resist the temptation.Jay wanted to have sex with her. Ria also couldn't hold back her feelings for him. She just wanted to melt into his arms - two bodies, one soul kind of a thing. She felt complete & fully alive with him. For Ria, it wasn't just sex. It was about expressing and letting him know how much she loved him. She felt that as they loved each other so he could touch her as she belonged to him and to no one else so they made love to each other. She felt that there was nothing wrong in getting intimate if you irrevocably & unconditionally love each other. She thought that they will get married sooner or later so there is nothing wrong in expressing it before tying the knot as long as you are sure about it.
They used precautions but unfortunately Ria got pregnant. She was just a college student. She couldn't tell this to her parents. She could just talk it out with Jay but he started ignoring her. When he came to know about it, he stopped responding to her messages & didn't attend her calls. She was completely devastated. Her world had fallen apart. Ria always believed that Jay would be there with her no matter what. Jay had also promised that he wouldn't leave her ever.He used to say that he would be her best friend till death. Jay's ignorance and change of behaviour came as a bolt from the blue for Ria. He wasn't there for her when she needed him the most. She used to cry endlessly. Her future looked bleak. She was surrounded by various questions. How will she face her parents ? How will her parents face the world? Will anyone accept her after hearing about this ? She felt like she wouldn't be able to trust or love anyone ever again. Abortion appeared as the only way out. After having abortion, Ria started having nightmares. A kid appeared in it and asked her that why did she rip the kid into pieces..? Why didn't she let her live and see the wonderful world..? The kid used to say that if you would have waited till marriage then I would have stayed alive. Why did u kill me ? What mistake did I commit ? I wanted to grow up to be a writer. Who gave you the right to kill me ? Ria felt that her life had no purpose so there was no use living. She had become like a living corpse. Ria committed suicide.
Now you can say that this is an extreme case.
Sex is something that's very personal. We all live in a democratic country where we have freedom to do whatever we want to do with our lives so no one else has the right to decide what we should do with our lives. I don't consider myself eligible to decide for another human being that how should he conduct his life. Yes or No to Pre-Marital Sex is the personal decision of the two lovers involved. Nobody else has the right to preach as to what they should do. We as friends, parents, well-wishers can tell them as to what we feel is right. We can tell them the pros and cons but ultimately its their personal decision because all of us have different sets of rights & wrongs. What is right as per me may not be right as per you and that's perfectly fine. Imagine a movie where every actor looked the same , had the same acting style and same dialogues. How would the movie be ? Boring, isn't it ? Our differences make us unique , special & interesting. If two souls love each other truly, unconditionally and irrevocably and if they wanna get intimate then its completely their choice. They should understand that its their conscious decision and they should be ready to face the consequences. If its consensual then you cannot play the blame game later on. The ideal situation is that a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend culminates in a wedding (almost all of us want to have a Cinderella or Snowhite type of a story) but it doesn't always happen.
What if the guy leaves you after you have had sex with him ? How will you
feel at that time ?
You will feel like a tissue paper that has been used & thrown away.
Would you be able to deal with the emotional baggage ?
How would you feel if you get married to someone else ? If you have been
so close and intimate with someone then how would it feel sharing your
body with someone else ? Virginity after you lose it is something that
you can't ever get back.
Getting physical with someone (having sex) is something that should be
done only with someone we truly love. For me, love is the pre-requisite.
But in the so-called modern times, many people have multiple partners
and one-night stands. They like having an option always available for
them as they cannot control their overflowing hormones. Those weak souls
become slaves of their senses. In the name of being cool, people are
being used as toys and feelings are being played with.
The right guy who really loves you will wait for you.
I feel that we really need to differentiate between love and lust.
If you really love someone then height, weight, color, creed doesn't
really matter. You don't objectify ur beloved. Please try and understand
whether they love you for you or do they want you for your body to
please their senses.
We can argue that having pre-marital sex with our beloved is obviously
better than sleeping with a complete stranger after you have had an
arranged marriage. It would be insane to say that having pre-marital sex
with someone you love is immoral and it would be ethically alright
having it with a complete stranger after wedding just because you have
the tag of marriage.
Once they went out for a movie.They took the corner seats as the love birds often do.Jay tried to get intimate with her.His hands moved at places it should not but Ria kept quiet as she thought that he loved her and so she told him "I'm all urs." She considered it to be an expression of love so she felt that if they love each other then there is nothing wrong in expressing it. For Ria, Jay was the best person in the entire world. She thought that he also loved her as he was always there for her. She felt that he made a move because he wanted to take their friendship/ relationship to the next level. She couldn't even imagine that Jay would betray or hurt her. She had no idea that Jay used to go out with other girls as he always pretended that she was the only one for him. On the coming Saturday, Ria's parents had to go out of town for some work. Ria told Jay about it. Jay said that he will come at her place when her parents would leave as he wanted to spend some time with her. Finally, the most awaited Saturday night arrived. Jay came at Ria's place. They had a lovely candle-light dinner watching "PS I Love You.." followed by a romantic ball-dance. The young lovers cuddled on the couch. Jay embraced & kissed Ria. In the heat of the moment, they couldn't resist the temptation.Jay wanted to have sex with her. Ria also couldn't hold back her feelings for him. She just wanted to melt into his arms - two bodies, one soul kind of a thing. She felt complete & fully alive with him. For Ria, it wasn't just sex. It was about expressing and letting him know how much she loved him. She felt that as they loved each other so he could touch her as she belonged to him and to no one else so they made love to each other. She felt that there was nothing wrong in getting intimate if you irrevocably & unconditionally love each other. She thought that they will get married sooner or later so there is nothing wrong in expressing it before tying the knot as long as you are sure about it.
They used precautions but unfortunately Ria got pregnant. She was just a college student. She couldn't tell this to her parents. She could just talk it out with Jay but he started ignoring her. When he came to know about it, he stopped responding to her messages & didn't attend her calls. She was completely devastated. Her world had fallen apart. Ria always believed that Jay would be there with her no matter what. Jay had also promised that he wouldn't leave her ever.He used to say that he would be her best friend till death. Jay's ignorance and change of behaviour came as a bolt from the blue for Ria. He wasn't there for her when she needed him the most. She used to cry endlessly. Her future looked bleak. She was surrounded by various questions. How will she face her parents ? How will her parents face the world? Will anyone accept her after hearing about this ? She felt like she wouldn't be able to trust or love anyone ever again. Abortion appeared as the only way out. After having abortion, Ria started having nightmares. A kid appeared in it and asked her that why did she rip the kid into pieces..? Why didn't she let her live and see the wonderful world..? The kid used to say that if you would have waited till marriage then I would have stayed alive. Why did u kill me ? What mistake did I commit ? I wanted to grow up to be a writer. Who gave you the right to kill me ? Ria felt that her life had no purpose so there was no use living. She had become like a living corpse. Ria committed suicide.
Now you can say that this is an extreme case.
Sex is something that's very personal. We all live in a democratic country where we have freedom to do whatever we want to do with our lives so no one else has the right to decide what we should do with our lives. I don't consider myself eligible to decide for another human being that how should he conduct his life. Yes or No to Pre-Marital Sex is the personal decision of the two lovers involved. Nobody else has the right to preach as to what they should do. We as friends, parents, well-wishers can tell them as to what we feel is right. We can tell them the pros and cons but ultimately its their personal decision because all of us have different sets of rights & wrongs. What is right as per me may not be right as per you and that's perfectly fine. Imagine a movie where every actor looked the same , had the same acting style and same dialogues. How would the movie be ? Boring, isn't it ? Our differences make us unique , special & interesting. If two souls love each other truly, unconditionally and irrevocably and if they wanna get intimate then its completely their choice. They should understand that its their conscious decision and they should be ready to face the consequences. If its consensual then you cannot play the blame game later on. The ideal situation is that a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend culminates in a wedding (almost all of us want to have a Cinderella or Snowhite type of a story) but it doesn't always happen.
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